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Dean Hardware

Dean Hardware

Knowledge Seeker. Experimenter. Projector.
Warrior Of Light.

The Best Way To Tame The Monkey Mind

Nothing exists outside of this exact moment.

The here and now.

Not yesterday, not tomorrow…

There is only right now.

The way you think, speak, and behave…

Ultimately comes down to one thing.

Your attention.

If you choose to place your attention on uncontrollable factors all the time…

Or possible negative outcomes.

Your subconscious mind takes that information literally and believes it is happening or is about to happen.

And you’ll focus on the idea that there is nothing you can do about it.

Your mind and body will prepare accordingly through; thoughts, feelings, and actions.

If you choose to focus your attention on the controllable factors all the time…

Or potential positive outcomes…

Your subconscious mind will believe and prepare for a positive outcome.

When you focus on the controllable and the positive it means your thoughts, feelings, and actions will correspond.

The subconscious mind is sticky.

The subconscious mind is where all of your programs operate.

It takes time to change them.

It won’t believe you after thinking one positive thought…

Your conscious thoughts take constant focus and attention to drop into the subconscious.

You must impregnate the subconscious mind (feminine) with the conscious mind (masculine).

Your mind is made up of what it receives through your senses…

It is your job to control the controllable.

You do this by taking control of your attention.

Because like Tony Robbins said…

“Where focus goes, energy flows”

The Monkey Mind

Do you practice mindfulness?

Or do you practice mindFILLness?

The monkey mind is a restless mind.

The monkey mind is where you lack control of your thoughts.

Where your mind is bouncing around all over the place in an unorganised and chaotic manner.

This is a very uncomfortable position to be in…

In the modern world, it’s easy to fill your mind with something that keeps the monkey mind at bay.

It’s easier to engage in something that instantly makes you feel good instead of going inward to see what’s going on in there.

When you can stuff your senses with things that flood your mind with dopamine…

The monkey mind is distracted and comfortable.

It is keeping the unorganised and chaotic thoughts quiet.

However, it is simply a bandage. A plaster.

It masks the symptoms and doesn’t address the core issue.

Your mind.

This is one of the main reasons we become addicted to things in my opinion.

We want to feel good on a daily basis.

So we pursue pleasure in the form of dopamine.

Dopamine

Dopamine is a part of your built-in reward system.

It is the feel-good chemical that you are rewarded with for doing something worthwhile…

You build a successful business so you get a hit of dopamine.

You construct a chicken coop and get a hit of dopamine.

You develop a healthy relationship and get a hit of dopamine.

Your reward system is designed to make you engage in activities that improve your reality.

The trouble is…

There are many ways to get a cheap hit of dopamine whenever you want:

  • Alcohol
  • Weed
  • Processed food
  • Social media
  • Gaming
  • Netflix, etc

Your mind is still receiving the same chemical that you would get from achieving something meaningful…

But in a way where no achievement has taken place.

When you receive dopamine in the correct way…

You hold yourself in high regard.

You rightfully believe that you should feel good because you are improving yourself and the world around you.

You develop a healthy ego.

However, the danger here is that when you have a constant flood of cheap dopamine…

Your mind associates this dopamine with achievement and reward.

Your ego and sense of achievement go through the roof…

But you haven’t actually achieved anything.

There is a disconnect.

You develop an unhealthy ego.

When you can artificially stimulate a dopamine release…

Your mind is getting what it wants.

This means that you are unlikely to pursue change or achievement.

Because when you are constantly being rewarded with dopamine…

Your mind already thinks you are achieving what you need to achieve.

You have the high ego and sense of achievement that dopamine brings…

But through a means of no actual achievement.

“Comfort is a drug. Once you get used to it, it becomes addicting. Give a weak man consistent sex, good food, cheap entertainment and he’ll throw his ambitions right out the window. The comfort zone is where dreams go to die.”

The Answer

Meditate.

Dive into your mind.

Unpack your thoughts.

Stop distracting your mind and allow it to do its job.

When you can sit alone with your mind.

When you can exist within your own skin without the need for distraction.

When you understand your mind…

You don’t need a constant flood of dopamine to keep the monkey mind at bay.

Meditation is the art of attention.

It brings you into the present moment.

It allows you to dive into your senses.

It allows you to understand yourself.

Develop a Practice

Think of something you do that allows you to be completely present…

It might be a class you attend.

It could be your job.

Or when you hit the gym for a workout.

Whatever it is, when you are completely present…

You are meditating.

When you are focusing all of your attention on the present moment…

You are meditating.

If you don’t have anything like this in your life, you can develop a practice:

  1. Find a spot where you won’t be disturbed.
  2. Sit or lay in a comfortable position.
  3. Close your eyes and allow yourself to breathe as you normally would.
  4. Begin by listening to the hum and buzz of the world around you (listen to it all as if it were a song).
  5. Don’t judge the sounds, just listen.
  6. Start to elongate your breath. 
  7. Breathe deeply and slowly (fill your belly first, then allow your chest to follow).
  8. Breathe in until your lungs are comfortably full.
  9. Hold it for a moment and let it fall out.
  10. When your lungs are comfortably empty, let the air fall back in.
  11. Watch this process take place (feel your body expand and deflate).
  12. When a thought pops into your mind, simply notice it and bring your attention back to your breath (repeat as many times as necessary).
  13. Focus on the process of breathing for a few minutes
  14. Then you can move your attention around the different sense doors and mentally note them.
  15. If you hear a sound, mentally note “hearing, hearing, hearing”.
  16. If the light behind your eyes changes, mentally note “seeing, seeing, seeing”.
  17. If a thought pops into your mind, mentally note “thinking, thinking, thinking”, etc.
  18. Allow your mind to pay attention to what you see, hear, smell, taste, touch, and think.
  19. Come to your senses and be in the present moment.
  20. Aim for 20 minutes.

What you will notice is that thoughts will always come to you.

You will develop the ability to focus and be present for extended periods of time…

However, you cannot stop thoughts from being generated.

The thoughts that come up will tell you a lot about yourself.

It is your job to unpack them.

You can engage in contemplation during meditation and allow yourself to explore your thoughts.

Or you could simply notice what occurs.

Because awareness is the precursor to change.

And once you are aware of something.

Once you have seen it in your mind’s eye…

You cannot unsee it.

This process will be uncomfortable to begin with if you are used to filling your mind with distractions.

But like everything, it gets easier with time.

And believe it or not… 

You will begin to enjoy the journey of discovering who you really are when you face your mind head-on.

Instead of distracting it.

Practice mindfulness.

Not mindFILLness.

Meditate.

With energy,

DH

Improve Your Health.

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Raise Your Vibration.

If I can help you see your life and the world around you in a unique and interesting way as we progress along the path of betterment together, I’ll be a happy man. 

Join me as I explore the different aspects of self-improvement across the fascinating realms of the mind, body and spirit.

If I can help you see your life and the world around you in an unique and interesting way as we progress along the path of betterment together, I’ll  be a happy man.